Ms Daniela Beer-Becker, Psychologist
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On Aging: There Is No Prime, Every Moment Is Your Prime, There Is No Peak, It Is Just Getting Better
Aging is seen as mostly negative in our society and there is a high emphasis on staying young. Youth is being portrayed as the be-and-end-all, the prime of our life, a state that needs to be extended as long as possible, and once signs of aging can no longer be denied, it is all downhill…
Our Differences Are Our Strengths: How a Person Who Is Just Too Different from You Can Move from Being a Threat to an Asset in Your Life
It is normal to feel uncomfortable at times with people who just seem to be too different from you. The way they dress, their food, their culture, their sexual orientation, their skin colour, their music, their hairstyle, their gestures, or any other trait I have not listed here, might just feel wrong to you, like…
If You Want to Be Happy, Self-Compassion and Kindness Towards Yourself Are Not Optional
Learning to be kind, accepting, and compassionate towards yourself is a prerequisite for happiness, it is not optional. The only way emotional healing and growth can happen in your life is if you choose to become your own best friend and cheerleader. Self-judgment, self-hatred, and self-criticism will keep you stuck, and sabotage your healing and…
Creating Healthy Thinking Patterns: Your Brain Does Not Come Up With Truth, and Thought and Thinking are Two Different Things
Let’s talk about your lovely brain. In order to have a good quality of life, you need to have healthy thinking patterns and understand that a thought and thinking are two different things, and that your brain does not come up with truth, but an array of random stories. Many of us accept any story…
The Power of Cognitive Defusion: How to Let Useless Thoughts Go and Improve Mental Health
Cognitive defusion is a therapeutic tool, introduced by Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), a scientifically based cognitive behavioural approach. Those who have worked with me know that I love it and think it should be taught at every elementary school, which would alleviate a ton of mental and emotional suffering. In order to have a…
You Can Be in Control: Stop Being Tortured by Your Painful Thoughts And Learn To Replace Them
In my previous blog, “Creating Healthy Thinking Patterns: Your Brain Does Not Come Up With Truth, and Thought and Thinking Are Two Different Things”, I invited you to write down a list of all your painful thoughts (aka stories, I will use both of them interchangeably) that leave you feeling miserable. If you still have…