Am I having a Burnout?
Ironically, or perhaps logically, it is often the people who work the hardest, who end up burning out. It is the “super moms or dads”, the “perfectionists”, the “workaholics”. It’s the people who seem to get everything done, who work the long hours, and who amaze and impress others with how much they are capable of doing. All of this over-achievement can come to a grinding halt if you are experiencing a burnout. You can go from getting it all done, to getting relatively little accomplished. Your self-esteem can plummet, you can feel physically exhausted, your concentration can evaporate, and your emotions can run wild (e.g., crying over small things or losing your temper). Unfortunately, the more you keep pushing yourself to get more done, the more tired you become.
Should I seek help for a Burnout?
Whether or not you were over-achieving due to personal motivation or the desire to please others, or both, this pattern of “doing it all” tends to be deeply entrenched. A pattern that may be likely to repeat itself if you do not seek professional help. While you might feel embarrassed or ashamed to seek help, asking for help is actually the first step in getting better. Learning how to do less, and to accept help from others can prevent you from getting burnt out again in the future.
If you are feeling burnt out, you might need to reduce your hours or course load at work or school, or even take a medical leave of absence. If you are a stay at home parent, you might need to re-structure your days to allow for better self-care. Our therapists can help evaluate your options with you, and can provide you with the necessary paperwork if required. In all cases, therapy can help you to understand how you became burnt out in the first place, how you can recover, and how you can try to prevent this from happening again.
It can be hard to predict on your own how long it will take, and what steps will be needed to help facilitate burnout recovery. Although you might hate to admit that you need help, we all need help from time to time. Trying to “push through” on your own can sometimes make things even worse. Meeting with a therapist can help you to:
- Prevent a burnout if you are heading in that direction, or speed up the recovery process
- Develop a plan towards re-establishing a sense of well-being
- Evaluate if a reduction in workload at work or school is necessary, and helping you reintegrate later on
- Coordinate the burnout recovery plan with your doctor, school, employer, or insurance company if needed
- Understand what led to the burnout, and create a burnout prevention plan for the future