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being kind to yourself

If You Want to Be Happy, Self-Compassion and Kindness Towards Yourself Are Not Optional

By Ms Daniela Beer-Becker, Psychologist | 2020-01-27

Learning to be kind, accepting, and compassionate towards yourself is a prerequisite for happiness, it is not optional. The only way emotional healing and growth can happen in your life is if you choose to become your own best friend and cheerleader. Self-judgment, self-hatred, and self-criticism will keep you stuck, and sabotage your healing and…

healthy thinking patterns

Creating Healthy Thinking Patterns: Your Brain Does Not Come Up With Truth, and Thought and Thinking are Two Different Things

By Ms Daniela Beer-Becker, Psychologist | 2020-01-27

Let’s talk about your lovely brain. In order to have a good quality of life, you need to have healthy thinking patterns and understand that a thought and thinking are two different things, and that your brain does not come up with truth, but an array of random stories. Many of us accept any story…

the power of cognitive defusion

The Power of Cognitive Defusion: How to Let Useless Thoughts Go and Improve Mental Health

By Ms Daniela Beer-Becker, Psychologist | 2020-01-27

Cognitive defusion is a therapeutic tool, introduced by Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), a scientifically based cognitive behavioural approach. Those who have worked with me know that I love it and think it should be taught at every elementary school, which would alleviate a ton of mental and emotional suffering.  In order to have a…

learn to replace painful thoughts

You Can Be in Control: Stop Being Tortured by Your Painful Thoughts And Learn To Replace Them

By Ms Daniela Beer-Becker, Psychologist | 2020-01-27

In my previous blog, “Creating Healthy Thinking Patterns: Your Brain Does Not Come Up With Truth, and Thought and Thinking Are Two Different Things”, I invited you to write down a list of all your painful thoughts (aka stories, I will use both of them interchangeably) that leave you feeling miserable. If you still have…

your mission statement

Your Mission Statement: Your Inner Compass That Will Keep You Focused and on Course

By Ms Daniela Beer-Becker, Psychologist | 2020-01-27

My experience is that in order to thrive and build a life I love, I need to be in touch on a daily basis with my mission statement (aka my inner compass). That is, I need to slow down and be clear on how I want to live this day, how I want to treat…

there are no good or bad feelings - welcome them all

There Are No Good or Bad Feelings, Welcome Them All: They Are Your Internal GPS

By Ms Daniela Beer-Becker, Psychologist | 2020-01-24

Many of our emotions don’t feel good – like anger, anxiety, shame, fear, jealousy – so it makes sense that many of us want to push them away, trying to not feel them.  However, your life will work much better once you choose to welcome all feelings without judgment. Keeping in mind that there are…

How to communicate effectively

How to Communicate Effectively to Increase Connection and Intimacy

By Ms Daniela Beer-Becker, Psychologist | 2020-01-24

Today I will introduce you to the tools of effective communication so that when conflict arises, which is inevitable in any genuine relationship, you know how to bring your point across in a way that increases connection and intimacy.  Conflict is not the problem in relationships, it is simply growth wanting to happen and a…

how to stop worrying when my anxiety is taking over

How to Stop Worrying When My Anxiety Is Taking over and I Am Feeling Helpless

By Ms Daniela Beer-Becker, Psychologist | 2020-01-24

Have you ever experienced any of the following anxiety symptoms: shortness of breath, a smothering sensation in your chest, dizziness, heart palpitations, trembling, sweating, a choking sensation, nausea, abdominal stress, numbness, tingling in your extremities, flushes, chills, or chest pain?  I for sure have experienced some of them in the past and, just like you,…

the suffocating grip of shame

How to Escape the Suffocation Grip of Shame

By Ms Daniela Beer-Becker, Psychologist | 2020-01-24

Do you know shame? For me, shame is the most painful of all the emotions. Its message is, “You are not ok, there is something wrong with you”. And when it bubbles up, I try to run! How do you react, when you feel shame?  Shame nearly suffocated me as a teenager when I got…

comparing yourself to others

Comparing Yourself to Others Is a Sure Way to Misery: How to Learn to Live Your Best Possible Life

By Ms Daniela Beer-Becker, Psychologist | 2020-01-24

I find it is so easy to get caught up in a never-ending loop of comparing myself to others. What about you?  It is not surprising that so many of us struggle with comparing ourselves to others. Our whole economic system, capitalism, is built on comparison. All of us get bombarded daily through media with…