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comparing yourself to others

Comparing Yourself to Others Is a Sure Way to Misery: How to Learn to Live Your Best Possible Life

By Ms Daniela Beer-Becker, Psychologist | 2020-01-24

I find it is so easy to get caught up in a never-ending loop of comparing myself to others. What about you?  It is not surprising that so many of us struggle with comparing ourselves to others. Our whole economic system, capitalism, is built on comparison. All of us get bombarded daily through media with…

Choosing forgiveness to be happy

There Is No Way Around it: Choose Forgiveness If You Want to Be Happy

By Ms Daniela Beer-Becker, Psychologist | 2020-01-24

There is no peaceful, joyous life without forgiveness. That is, forgiving myself and forgiving others. We all have hurt ourselves and others, and have been hurt by others. This is part of the human condition.  Hanging on to anger and resentment is like drinking a cup of poison, hoping the other person will die. Or,…

Conflict in relationships

Just Because You Have Conflict in Your Relationship Does Not Mean That You Are With the Wrong Person

By Ms Daniela Beer-Becker, Psychologist | 2020-01-23

It might just mean that you don’t have the tools to move through conflict. I often feel upset (and it drives me crazy, to be honest) when I come across the narrative in our culture that because you have conflict in your relationship, it means that you are with the wrong person and need to…

Does truth matter in relationships?

Does Truth Matter in Relationships? Yes it does!

By Ms Daniela Beer-Becker, Psychologist | 2020-01-23

I believe the truth matters. And without it, relationships cannot succeed in the long term.  With many public figures lying these days so freely, seemingly without any hesitation or remorse, it is easy at times to wonder if truth holds any importance at all. It depends on what kind of relationship you are looking for.…

10 sleep tips

10 Tips for a Better Night’s Sleep

By Dr Emily Blake, Psychologist | 2020-01-13

Tired of tossing and turning at night? These simple tips may help you sleep better and be more energetic and productive during the day. 1. Beds are for Sleeping, Toilets are for **** ing If you just thought of a stinky way to complete that sentence, great news! You’re familiar with the powerful force of…

the power of gratitude

The Power of Gratitude – a Quick Way to Move from Dissatisfaction to Contentment

By Ms Daniela Beer-Becker, Psychologist | 2020-01-13

Each time I practice gratitude in my life, I see such a powerful positive difference that it makes me want to share my experience with you. If you are a bit like me, it is easy for you to see the bad in yourself,  your loved ones, and your life in general. I can see…

positive life skills

To Feel Good, You Need a Solid Foundation of Positive Life Skills

By Ms Daniela Beer-Becker, Psychologist | 2020-01-13

In order to be able to regulate our emotions effectively and be successful in building healthy, resilient thinking patterns, we first need to build a healthy foundation of positive life skills.  It’s like preparing the ground of a garden, so plants can thrive. Without a good flower bed, plants cannot thrive and there will be…

how to increase happiness in your life

Expand the Good: How to Increase Happiness in Your Life

By Ms Daniela Beer-Becker, Psychologist | 2020-01-06

I want to share with you how you can increase your happiness significantly in your life, without it changing at all, staying exactly how it is right now.  That is because happiness has little to do with outward changes, but is a skill that needs to be learned. It is a way of seeing the…

love your body unconditionally

Love Your Body Unconditionally – It Deserves It!

By Ms Daniela Beer-Becker, Psychologist | 2020-01-06

Our bodies have it hard today, there are so many demands on them. There is especially a lot of pressure on how our bodies should look. Our society has created such a small window of “acceptability”, and most of us (me included – especially as I get older) are outside of it. And, as we…

how to harness the power of anger

Anger- Harness this Power for Good!

By Ms Daniela Beer-Becker, Psychologist | 2020-01-06

Anger is a powerful energy. The energy itself is neither good nor bad, but it is a messenger that something is off and needs attention. It’s like an alarm system going off, saying, “Warning, warning, this is not working, adjustments are needed.” The required adjustments might be outward changes (like setting boundaries or ending a…