Blake Psychology's blog
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There Is No Way Around it: Choose Forgiveness If You Want to Be Happy
There is no peaceful, joyous life without forgiveness. That is, forgiving myself and forgiving others. We all have hurt ourselves and others, and have been hurt by others. This is part of the human condition. Hanging on to anger and resentment is like drinking a cup of poison, hoping the other person will die. Or,…
Just Because You Have Conflict in Your Relationship Does Not Mean That You Are With the Wrong Person
It might just mean that you don’t have the tools to move through conflict. I often feel upset (and it drives me crazy, to be honest) when I come across the narrative in our culture that because you have conflict in your relationship, it means that you are with the wrong person and need to…
Does Truth Matter in Relationships? Yes it does!
I believe the truth matters. And without it, relationships cannot succeed in the long term. With many public figures lying these days so freely, seemingly without any hesitation or remorse, it is easy at times to wonder if truth holds any importance at all. It depends on what kind of relationship you are looking for.…
10 Tips for a Better Night’s Sleep
Tired of tossing and turning at night? These simple tips may help you sleep better and be more energetic and productive during the day. 1. Beds are for Sleeping, Toilets are for **** ing If you just thought of a stinky way to complete that sentence, great news! You’re familiar with the powerful force of…
The Power of Gratitude – a Quick Way to Move from Dissatisfaction to Contentment
Each time I practice gratitude in my life, I see such a powerful positive difference that it makes me want to share my experience with you. If you are a bit like me, it is easy for you to see the bad in yourself, your loved ones, and your life in general. I can see…
To Feel Good, You Need a Solid Foundation of Positive Life Skills
In order to be able to regulate our emotions effectively and be successful in building healthy, resilient thinking patterns, we first need to build a healthy foundation of positive life skills. It’s like preparing the ground of a garden, so plants can thrive. Without a good flower bed, plants cannot thrive and there will be…
Expand the Good: How to Increase Happiness in Your Life
I want to share with you how you can increase your happiness significantly in your life, without it changing at all, staying exactly how it is right now. That is because happiness has little to do with outward changes, but is a skill that needs to be learned. It is a way of seeing the…
Love Your Body Unconditionally – It Deserves It!
Our bodies have it hard today, there are so many demands on them. There is especially a lot of pressure on how our bodies should look. Our society has created such a small window of “acceptability”, and most of us (me included – especially as I get older) are outside of it. And, as we…
Anger- Harness this Power for Good!
Anger is a powerful energy. The energy itself is neither good nor bad, but it is a messenger that something is off and needs attention. It’s like an alarm system going off, saying, “Warning, warning, this is not working, adjustments are needed.” The required adjustments might be outward changes (like setting boundaries or ending a…
Research about alcohol-related aggression and violence
Alcohol intoxication can lead individuals with specific risk factors to commit aggressive and violent acts Given the ongoing debate in the United States, surrounding allegations from Christine Blasey Ford before the Senate, about the possible sexual misconduct of Brett Kavanaugh, light has been shed on the impact of alcohol intoxication on physical aggression and interpersonal…